روابط زناشویی از منظر زنان متأهل طبقه متوسط شهر تهران در سال 1397-1396

نوع مقاله: مقاله پژوهشی

نویسندگان

1 استادیارعلوم ارتباطات دانشگاه تهران

2 دانشیار مطالعات زنان دانشگاه علامه طباطبائی

چکیده

فهم رابطۀ جنسی در این دوره تاریخی جز با تأمل در تاریخ شکل‌گیری جامعه مدرن و تغییر مفهوم عشق، رابطه و صمیمیت امکان‌پذیر نیست. این مقاله در پی پاسخ به این پرسش است که زنان طبقه متوسط شهر تهران، به‌مثابه زنانی مدرن چه فهمی از روابط جنسی خود با همسرانشان دارند و آن را چطور معنا می‌کنند؟ در این مقاله از مفاهیم «رابطه ناب» ِ گیدنز و «عشق سیال» ِ باومن یاری گرفتیم و درنهایت برای تبیین مسأله تحقیق در سطح کلان به تاریخ سکسوالیته از منظر فوکو تکیه کردیم. همچنین برای پاسخ به سؤال تحقیق از روش پدیدارشناسی استفاده کرده و با 28 نفر از زنان طبقه متوسط شهر تهران در سال‌های 1397-1396 مصاحبه عمیق انجام دادیم. یافته‌ها نشان داد مشارکت‌کنندگان روابط جنسی با همسرشان را تحت مقوله‌های «وظایف زن»، «معامله با همسر»، «کنترل همسر»، «تضمین زندگی زناشویی» و «لذت دوجانبه» معنا کرده‌اند و موانع تحقق آن را «کم‌توانی جنسی مردان»، «ناآگاهی همسران از رابطه جنسی مناسب»، «سرخوردگی به دلیل ازدواج زودهنگام»، «عدم برقراری رابطه کلامی» و «روابط فرازناشویی مرد» می‌دانند. سازو کار‌های جبرانی زنان شامل «جبران مالی»، «روابط فرازناشویی» و «جایگزینی روابط عاطفی با دوستان» بوده است.

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عنوان مقاله [English]

Viewpoints Regarding Marital Relationships among Middle Class Married Women Living in Tehran (2018-2019)

نویسندگان [English]

  • Atefeh Aghaei 1
  • Mohammadtaghi Karami Ghahi 2
1 Assistant Professor of Communication Sciences, University of Tehran
2 Associate Professor of Women Studies, Allameh Tabataba’i University
چکیده [English]

In the current historical period, understanding sexual relationships is not possible, unless they are contemplated upon through the history of  the formation of modern society, the alteration of the concept of love, relationship and intimacy. Thus, the present paper seeks to answer the following question: how do Tehran middle class women as modern women understand their sexual relationship with their spouses, and how do they define it? The concepts of Giddens’ pure relationship, Bauman’s liquid love, and Foucault’s sexuality history were used to explain the data. In-depth interviews were conducted with 28 middle class women of Tehran in 2018-2019, and the requirements were the age limit of 45 and having been married for at least five years. The results showed that the women define the sexual relationship with their husbands as female marital duties, dealing with spouses, an opportunity to control their spouses, a way to secure marital life, and mutual intimacy and pleasure. The constrains of meeting this desire were male sexual dysfunctions, the husbands’ lack of knowledge regarding proper sexual relationships, feeling frustrated in the relationship due to early marriages, lack of verbal communication, and the husbands’ extramarital relationships. Women’s compensation mechanisms include financial compensation, and extra-marital relations.

کلیدواژه‌ها [English]

  • sexual relationship
  • Phenomenology
  • pure relationship
  • liquid love
  • discourse formulation
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